How to Write a Condolence Note

Expressing ourselves during difficult times can be challenging for most, especially when it comes to comforting friends, family or colleagues who have lost a loved one. No matter how difficult it may be, it’s worth the time and effort to write a condolence note to show that you care.

Before you put the pen to paper, Arbor Memorial offers the following guidance:

Be timely and consider others. Send your note as soon as possible. Ideally, you’ll want to reach out within the first two weeks to show your support and acknowledge the loss. If you know friends or relatives who were close to the deceased, offer your sympathy to them as well. There is no limit to how many notes you can send.

Write from the heart. Focus on the content of the message you’re writing, rather than the length.

“Express your sympathy in a few heartfelt sentences by acknowledging the loss, referring to the individual by name,” says Genevieve Veilleux, branch manager at Arbor Memorial. “You can mention any special qualities of the person who has passed. End the note with a thoughtful word, hope, wish or expression of sympathy.”

Offer help. Depending on your relationship to the bereaved, you may also want to offer help. Be specific instead of offering the vague promise of “if there’s anything I can do let me know.” You will feel more accountable if your planned action is more defined.

Trust yourself. When writing your note, remember to be yourself and go with your instincts. The words that come from your heart are the likeliest to comfort those in mourning.


SOURCE: News Canada